Feminist Regrets Prioritising Career Over Meaningful Relationships

Feminist Regrets Prioritising Career Over Meaningful Relationships


Feminist Regrets Prioritising Career Over Meaningful Relationships

A lady went on Twitter to rant about regretting some decisions she made in the past in her life that are now haunting her.
The lady who identifies as a feminist complained of deciding to focus on academics and not family and now her friends are happily married with kids but she is not.
Feminist Regrets Prioritising Career Over Meaningful Relationships

When I was a feminist I didn't understand: "feminists destroy the family." Science progressed. I worked 70+ hr weeks, checking experiments at 3 am, in lab at Christmas.... My friends had children. Now they have families and I have publications. Don't make my mistake.
I am not saying that girls shouldn't pursue science if they want. By all means, go for it. But we cannot simultaneously push girls into intense, demanding career paths while neglecting to mention that the majority of them will want children, which requires its own planning.
To be clear, I am grateful for my career and for supportive parents, teachers, colleagues that all wanted me to succeed and be happy. I always loved science and deeply love that I was able to study it for so long.
I am not angry. I am not placing blame elsewhere. I made all my choices w/ the information I had at the time. This information was heavily biased towards career and caused me to prioritize work over my romantic relationships. There were many missed opportunities there.
The feminist view that I had was that if I didn't prioritize my science career, I was giving into the system that just saw me as a baby-maker. I wanted to prove I was more. There is so much wrong with that perception, which is why I feel that feminism was a cancer on my mind.
I was telling my story because I see so many amazing young girls on a path where they may be scrambling to have families one day and I want them to recognize how fast time goes. I want to maximize human happiness; all girls deserve to understand the power of their choices.
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